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понедельник, 15 декабря 2014 г.

How To Talk To Teens About Sex As Parents

By Lucia Weeks


Teens would learn stuff on sex whether parents talk to them about it or not. How to talk to teens about sex can be an issue for parents who are not comfortable with the subject. Teenagers learn sex issues at school and from their peers, and so if parents fail to give them the right information, they would take whatever they get from outside the home. It is the responsibility of parents to shape the beliefs of their young ones, even on sex matters.

First, it is important to note that talking to teens on sex is an ongoing process, therefore conversations should be part of normal life. Short and frequent conversations are recommended rather than a big one-off talk. In addition, you do not have to be experts on sexuality to have meaningful conversation with teenagers.

You need to prepare before talking to teens about sex. Read the subject, and get more information, and get answers to your own questions before talking to your teen. There are age-appropriate books on sex for parents. You can also practice what you want to discuss with your spouse or partner. This will make it easier to get over any embarrassment when the time comes to talk with your teen.

It is important to talk on subjects with your teen's one-on one. When is it appropriate to talk about sex? If you wait for the perfect moment, you might miss the best opportunity and your teen could be severely misinformed. Everyday moments such as riding in a car, putting away groceries, taking a walk or watching TV, sometimes offer the best opportunities to have a conversation. For instance, a TV program may raise an issue on responsible sexual behaviour and this can set the stage for a conversation.

Parents need to be very honest when explaining sex issues to teens. They should open up and answer all their questions without any ambiguity. When parents are in doubt as to answers to particular questions, they need to let the teenagers know and offer to get the answers later.

Information provided to teens on sex has to be very accurate. Trying to scare teenagers with inaccurate information may fail because they would get the right information elsewhere. If this happens, they may not trust the rest of the information which is otherwise true. In situations where the facts contradict the beliefs of the parent, that has to be explained to the teen rather than just imposing the beliefs on them.

The talk on sex should be in the form of a discussion where teens can have the opportunities of asking questions and also express their views. This way, they will learn better. Trying to lecture them may not be the best option, because the parent cannot be sure the teen is listening.

If talking about sex with your teen seems impossible because you are too embarrassed or your teen refuses to listen, try different approaches. You can get age-appropriate sex education books for teens and leave them in your child's bed room. You can also ask a trusted aunt or uncle, or a minister for help. Remember, talking to teenagers about sex can be difficult, but it is important and nothing can replace your influence.




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