Knowing the process in a marriage lets you understand the spot where you along with your partner are near, so it helps explain what could appear to be puzzling behaviors. They make a road map towards a healthy relationship. It does not matter how long you've been in a relationship; most of them fit in these six stages:
"OMG, where did you come from? You are perfection!" stage
At this first stage each partner attempts get along and show only their best sides; you both are making as much as you can to make things work for you. At that point, neither person may have seen your respective bad sides since you'll have both been on your best behavior! This is often a time for love, romance and sexual attraction!
Perturbation stage
During this stage you each start noticing the differences between the two of you. Conflicts start arising however they are easily solved fast most of the time. At this stage we see things a lot more clear as we taking off our "pink" sunglasses. Through this stage, the partners either deal with this or find you breaking apart.
Molding stage
Both partners accept and appreciate each other's weaknesses; they avoid using of force and give up the mentality of love without struggle. This stage is all about the balance of "to give" and "to get".
The happy stage
Each partner relaxes and affirms that they might never alter the other partner completely. They begin giving each other more love and respect without stressing out about each other's imperfections.
The surrender stage
Couples surrender to reality and start to believe that their relationships can have some defects too, and accept that it is normal. That's usually where they learn to love the other and definitely feel connected to each other. This period of time shows that you are currently both able to commit long term to one another.
Trust stage
This is actually the last stage, and trust here becomes unconditional. Partners start working on some common projects, they feel united and turn into a true team; this become obvious to everyone around them.
Imagine that you experience some difficulties at one of these stages.
The main thing here is communication. Focus on your soulmate speaks first and try not to interrupt her or him. You may have to accept that you feel sometimes differently. Try to walk in his/her shoes instead of make another attempt to change his point of view or even his/her personality.
Hope it is more clear now what point your relationship are at, and when you do I'm sure this knowledge may help you find the best partner!
"OMG, where did you come from? You are perfection!" stage
At this first stage each partner attempts get along and show only their best sides; you both are making as much as you can to make things work for you. At that point, neither person may have seen your respective bad sides since you'll have both been on your best behavior! This is often a time for love, romance and sexual attraction!
Perturbation stage
During this stage you each start noticing the differences between the two of you. Conflicts start arising however they are easily solved fast most of the time. At this stage we see things a lot more clear as we taking off our "pink" sunglasses. Through this stage, the partners either deal with this or find you breaking apart.
Molding stage
Both partners accept and appreciate each other's weaknesses; they avoid using of force and give up the mentality of love without struggle. This stage is all about the balance of "to give" and "to get".
The happy stage
Each partner relaxes and affirms that they might never alter the other partner completely. They begin giving each other more love and respect without stressing out about each other's imperfections.
The surrender stage
Couples surrender to reality and start to believe that their relationships can have some defects too, and accept that it is normal. That's usually where they learn to love the other and definitely feel connected to each other. This period of time shows that you are currently both able to commit long term to one another.
Trust stage
This is actually the last stage, and trust here becomes unconditional. Partners start working on some common projects, they feel united and turn into a true team; this become obvious to everyone around them.
Imagine that you experience some difficulties at one of these stages.
The main thing here is communication. Focus on your soulmate speaks first and try not to interrupt her or him. You may have to accept that you feel sometimes differently. Try to walk in his/her shoes instead of make another attempt to change his point of view or even his/her personality.
Hope it is more clear now what point your relationship are at, and when you do I'm sure this knowledge may help you find the best partner!
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